ANSWERS TO YOUR SECRET QUESTIONS- LETS TALK

ANSWERS TO YOUR SECRET QUESTIONS- LETS TALK

Here are few questions which most of us would not ask but would constantly seek an answer.

Question1: I see a lot of people around me being happy. Its a good thing. But when i see every other person leading a happy, content, luxurious fairy tale perfect life in social media I feel insecure. I have an inner feeling that I am the only one who has insignificant life. Everybody is enjoying life, placed well, eating royal food, talking sofisticated words, wearing branded clothes, living with angelic partner, travelling the globe and so on. So there is me who is living a monotonous life. Same work or studys everyday, repeating same set of clothes over months, eating the routine menu in neighbourhood cafe everyday, having simple conversations through out the day, surrounded by friends parents or partners who nag often. I spend hours and hours of the day thinking on why is my life not so perfect. I spend hours and days to plan, picture and project a perfect life for the world to see. And finally, i end up missing up on many other things in the process. But there you have a perfect projected life of mine for the world to see. But why is it so difficult for me. Why am I unhappy and unsatisfied at the end of the day?
Can you relate to this? Is it one of your secret questions?

My Answer: Beleive me or not, almost everybody would have had this question in the corner of their minds at one point or the other in their life time.

Among the perfect lives you see on social media, there would be many who are just like you. They would have spent hours or days in thinking and planning to project that perfect moment to signify their worthy life, for you and the world to see.

Among the "perfect" lunch or dinner, there might be a hungry spouse on the other side of the camera. There might be a distressed child on the floor holding back his bladder. There might be a waiter who was torn between his owner and customer while trying to get the perfect picture for the couple. There might be a homeless child glaring at the food that people use more to just create a memory and less so to calm down their hungry stomach. Only part that is missing in the projected life is that, the things in the background are not projected. And it makes all the difference to your mind.

Among the "perfect" outfit, there would be many who would have just got the perfect picture from a changing room in the store without ever owning it. When its about a elegant after party look, they might have spent hours together on those heels and would want to return home the very moment. But they  would endure it just to project and say " enjoying the party". Behind that porcelin skin, there might be a scared face covered with a concealer. Behind that perfectly colour smeared lips, there might be a watery mouth holding back from tasting the delicacy. Again, the background is not projected and it makes all the difference to your mind.

Among the "perfect" relation projected, there might be a partner who landed for the picture from a meeting break and fled back right at the end of the shutter click. There might be a child who was forced some sedatives just to get the angelic pic. There might be an elderly parent who was made to pose until the desired moment was captured. There might be mothers only remembered on mothers day and fathers remembered only on fathers day. That too only the projected world. There might be an ancestor who is remembered on social media accounts but was burnt or burried without any final respects by his relatives.

Instead of being disturbed by these "just projected" life, take a moment watch your own life. Instead of clicking pictures of food served take a moment and if you can feed a hungry child and capture the happiness live. Let your hungry spouse eat the food when its still fresh. Take a moment and consider your childs need. Be kind to people around by not asking them to be your photographers.

Wear what you like and what comforts you. Everybody has scars. Be it be on skin or on life. Some accept it cover it and move on. Others spend their life believing life is perfect for others and unfair to themselves.

Spend time in bonding with people around you in real life. Every moment is precious. Spend it with your people the way they want and the way they are comfortable and the way you are comfortable and treasure them. The moment you start living in reality and start noticing that every moment is so happening and valuable, you will stop looking for a perfect one.

... will be back with a new question and answer soon.
                                                                      -Sowmya
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