ARE YOU SURE IT IS NOT HAUNTED?? -YOUR MIND

ARE YOU SURE IT IS NOT HAUNTED?? -YOUR MIND

Take a moment. Have a thought. Is your mind free of negativity? Is your mind haunted by negative vibes? If so how often? Are you aware of how negativity is manipulating your thoughts, actions and life style? Continue reading if you are not sure.

First of all, let us consider the effect of news on our mind set. Think of the time when you pick up the news paper. What is the first thing that catches your attention? What is the one thing you want to read to satisfy your curious mind? In other words, what is your mind most intrested and curious about, other than your favourite tabloids? Is it about how the little children are taking part in school dance programmes, elderly couple winning a couple  show, a surgeon completing 100 successfull surgeries, articles on global peace.. Or does your mind tend to pick up news about how little children were shot dead in a school, elderly couple being abandoned without support, a surgeon who could not save a patient, articles on possibility of nuclear war between nations in future..

Most likely to most of us, it is the negative news that catches our attention first. You might deny it. But if you sit back and think about it or open the news paper tomorrow you will notice that it is true in most cases and most situations. This causes negativity to build up. We start having negative thoughts about the topic and related to the topic. For instance, we read about children being shot and we think about it and soon enough we consider thinking of the safety of our children and our loved ones. We read about a death during surgery and we conclude surgeries are not safe. Further such thoughts will lead to fear or anxity atleast to some level if not significant always. And often we might gaurd our actions that are related to it. For instance we might postpone or even avoid getting a surgery after reading about an ontable death of a similar case.

One of the reason behind this might be the preferences given to various kind of news. A heart wrenching story or a nerve wrecking incident are always the priority of news. They always occupy the headlines. The little happy things occupy small columns in the corners. Hence our mind is trained to pick up and prioritize things in that manner. Secondly, we tend to ignore the positive news thinking that its a good thing if it happens to us. There is nothing to worry about it. But we worry about being in the negative situation. We think of how helpless we would be. As this goes on for days, weeks and years, we start forgetting the little happy things and remember the big negative things. We start feeling that the world has turned to a hopeless place. The world is filled with cruel people, unfortunate events, untreatable diseases etc.

So, lets view it on the basis of reality and get rid of the negativity out of our minds. Before holding on to a news about children being shot at a school, think about the children who are learning, playing and enjoying in all other schools over years. They are much more in number. Before being dejected about a traffic accident you witnessd, consider the other millions of vehicles that made it safe accross the roads. They are numerous. Before pointing at one death during surgery, look at the miraculous number of surgeries and treatment that brought back the crippled and near dead to life. They form the major part. Hence if you reconsider the facts, in reality, the major part of the world is filled with positive things like happiness, success and miracles. Its the world inside our minds that is inverted. So from now on, let us ignore the details of negatives and search for the details of positives..

To be continued..                                   -Sowmya

ANSWERS TO YOUR SECRET QUESTIONS- LETS TALK

ANSWERS TO YOUR SECRET QUESTIONS- LETS TALK

Here are few questions which most of us would not ask but would constantly seek an answer.

Question1: I see a lot of people around me being happy. Its a good thing. But when i see every other person leading a happy, content, luxurious fairy tale perfect life in social media I feel insecure. I have an inner feeling that I am the only one who has insignificant life. Everybody is enjoying life, placed well, eating royal food, talking sofisticated words, wearing branded clothes, living with angelic partner, travelling the globe and so on. So there is me who is living a monotonous life. Same work or studys everyday, repeating same set of clothes over months, eating the routine menu in neighbourhood cafe everyday, having simple conversations through out the day, surrounded by friends parents or partners who nag often. I spend hours and hours of the day thinking on why is my life not so perfect. I spend hours and days to plan, picture and project a perfect life for the world to see. And finally, i end up missing up on many other things in the process. But there you have a perfect projected life of mine for the world to see. But why is it so difficult for me. Why am I unhappy and unsatisfied at the end of the day?
Can you relate to this? Is it one of your secret questions?

My Answer: Beleive me or not, almost everybody would have had this question in the corner of their minds at one point or the other in their life time.

Among the perfect lives you see on social media, there would be many who are just like you. They would have spent hours or days in thinking and planning to project that perfect moment to signify their worthy life, for you and the world to see.

Among the "perfect" lunch or dinner, there might be a hungry spouse on the other side of the camera. There might be a distressed child on the floor holding back his bladder. There might be a waiter who was torn between his owner and customer while trying to get the perfect picture for the couple. There might be a homeless child glaring at the food that people use more to just create a memory and less so to calm down their hungry stomach. Only part that is missing in the projected life is that, the things in the background are not projected. And it makes all the difference to your mind.

Among the "perfect" outfit, there would be many who would have just got the perfect picture from a changing room in the store without ever owning it. When its about a elegant after party look, they might have spent hours together on those heels and would want to return home the very moment. But they  would endure it just to project and say " enjoying the party". Behind that porcelin skin, there might be a scared face covered with a concealer. Behind that perfectly colour smeared lips, there might be a watery mouth holding back from tasting the delicacy. Again, the background is not projected and it makes all the difference to your mind.

Among the "perfect" relation projected, there might be a partner who landed for the picture from a meeting break and fled back right at the end of the shutter click. There might be a child who was forced some sedatives just to get the angelic pic. There might be an elderly parent who was made to pose until the desired moment was captured. There might be mothers only remembered on mothers day and fathers remembered only on fathers day. That too only the projected world. There might be an ancestor who is remembered on social media accounts but was burnt or burried without any final respects by his relatives.

Instead of being disturbed by these "just projected" life, take a moment watch your own life. Instead of clicking pictures of food served take a moment and if you can feed a hungry child and capture the happiness live. Let your hungry spouse eat the food when its still fresh. Take a moment and consider your childs need. Be kind to people around by not asking them to be your photographers.

Wear what you like and what comforts you. Everybody has scars. Be it be on skin or on life. Some accept it cover it and move on. Others spend their life believing life is perfect for others and unfair to themselves.

Spend time in bonding with people around you in real life. Every moment is precious. Spend it with your people the way they want and the way they are comfortable and the way you are comfortable and treasure them. The moment you start living in reality and start noticing that every moment is so happening and valuable, you will stop looking for a perfect one.

... will be back with a new question and answer soon.
                                                                      -Sowmya
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What if she cannot wear the pretty pink saree..

Trying to make myself comfortable in the relatively cozy window seat of the not so giant bus, i pull the window glass open. The noice of the heavy rains is now being slowly masked by the noise of honking vehicles, local vendors, from crys of uncomfortable child to crowing of the crows.. In the midst of all the noise i hear silence. I rather refer it as i could see silence..

    With bones sticking out her wrinkled skin she was trying to craft a perfect cone out of a piece of old news paper. she rolled it a couple of time as her hands were shivering. She then placed it over a row of neatly crafted paper cones.She now reaches to pick up a worn out wooden spatula and moves it over a old aluminium vessel as to fry something. She now used the same piece of old news paper to insulate the part of the vessel which she held.

She quickly picks up a paper cone and fills it with a hanfull of roasted peanuts and hands it over to a man dressed in shabby clothes.Her hands still shivering.He places a 5rupi coin on her hand in exchange and starts walking away. He turns back to the belling noice of the spatula hitting the aluminium vessel. She moves her head close to the coin to confirm its value and then hands over the change to the man. Both exchange brief smiles before he left. She continued with crafting cones and roasting nuts. Once in a while she rested her back onthe pillars that stood tall over the old pavement she worked on.
 
    when it came to children, after handing over the cone filled with nuts she would fill the childs other hand with few more nuts and both would exchange wide toothless smiles. It was an infectious amount of energy around that eightyish year old strong lady..Her life moves on..and she moves on with life.

My mind was occupied with that positive energy untill a young lady in her twenties climbed the bus and droped a handout over  me. She was wearing a pretty pink saree. she seemed strong enough to run a marathon and pretty enough to walk on a ramp. But the letter read "Disabled". She collected the notes and coins handed over by passangers out of sympathy with a no gratitude in return. She would mumble something with a cursing face if a passanger refused to hand over money for her "disability". Her life moves on too.. But she remained disabled even in pretty pink..